My child doesn’t play. Or talk. 6 easy Solutions & effective Play Ideas

You’ve tried to interest him in toys or play activities. But all he wants to do is run to and fro endlessly vocalising loudly or fiddling with an object while sitting absentmindedly on a chair or lolling on the sofa. Whenever you try to show or teach him something, his eyes drift away, his hands go limp or he just wanders off. Or he screams and messes it up. You feel lost. And so does the child. Or what is going on?

Perhaps you worry about autistic-like behaviours? Perhaps the child has an autism diagnosis. But that hasn’t really helped to improve the situation or to make you feel less helpless or confused.

Should you buy him another toy?

You keep wondering, if there’s a toy out there that he would love and play with. But you haven’t found it yet? You’ve tried so many things. You’ve bought so many new toys. In fact your house is full of plastic toys. But he doesn’t play with any of them. And every time you end up feeling helpless, rejected, confused and frustrated. He pays no attention. He’s not interested. Or he uses a toy in a repetitive way, wiggling it or pressing a button over and over again. Or he lines things up, or puts everything in his mouth.

What’s going on, and what should you do?

There’s something confusing going on. And it does require our attention. But it’s not just about the toys, – although some play materials have more potential for success than others. Is it that you’ve just not found the ‘right’ toy? Or what can you do?

6 simple Solutions & effective Play Ideas

I will show you 6 simple and effective play ideas and ‘solutions’ to this increasingly common problem that cost very little, but have a high success rate and great play value. Here are 6 simple solutions:

  1. WHO you ARE: YOU are the best toy.
  2. What you already HAVE at home.
  3. What you already DO every day.
  4. What you can COLLECT in your daily life.
  5. What you and your child can MAKE.
  6. What you or your child can MOVE.

With these solutions, you and your child will have some realistic opportunities to interact, to get into contact, to feel less lost and to have fun with each other. In that way, the child can experience the world, himself and  your relationship with him in new ways. Gradually, you can help him to make progress and to move towards new experiences, interest in the world, playful interaction and learning to communicate more.

 Next time:

  1. Effective Play Ideas – Solution #1: WHO you ARE: YOU are the best toy.

A warm welcome from Sibylle Janert.

I look forward to discussing your concerns.

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