Hand Him Something
Jack (age 5) kept grabbing and pressing himself onto mother’s head and although passionate, it did not lead to loving interaction, but actually hurt her. She had tried many ways to stop this unfortunate behaviour, until she discovered that giving him something into his outstretched hand was often successful in orienting him back to a shared activity. At other times she would squeeze his hand and arm in a reassuringly firm and calm rhythm in response to his reaching out for her. In that way, they could be in touch in a good way that allowed more interaction and communication than his ‘coming onto her head’.